Etiquette rules for a civil partnership ceremony - Chatter

hobbes · 26-01-2006, 15:42

My fantastic partner of nearly 15 years and I have decided to enter into a civil partnership this October.

We are keen to avoid a lot of the tradional wedding trimmings- bridesmaids and confetti are out- but we are struggling to agree on certain areas and unlike weddings, there are few guides etc to assist.

Both of us are fairly blokey blokes so we are keen to avoid any bride/groom stereotyping. However we can not agree the actual format of the ceremony. We don't really want to walk down the aisle separately or hand in hand and we don't see the need to be given away. On the other hand we don't really want to be in the room whilst our guests arrive.

Presents are another issue. we have a nice home and lack for nothing possession-wise. I feel money/vouchers is tacky and really just want a big party but I know friends and family will be confused if they have no direction.

what do other forum members think. I have attended other gay weddings but they have always mirrored straight ones.

PamelaL · 26-01-2006, 15:44

You do know people charge for providing this advice.

pad · 26-01-2006, 15:48

Congratulations!!!..

If all else fails you can both run into the room, have a massive row about how the ceremony should be, kiss, make up and then the ceremony... Slapping and pinching at this stage would negate the need for cabarety later

I think if you can agree something you both want to do just go with it..It's your ceremony and there are no rules (beyond the rules of the register office) so what other people do doesn't matter..

p.

26-01-2006, 15:49

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Originally Posted by PamelaL

You do know people charge for providing this advice.

Are you trying to make a quick buck this afternoon Pam?

(As you can see, still not doing the essay!)

Back to the thread, are you having the ceremony in a register offfice? If so I am sure the registrars will offer you some guidance. I got married at the end of last year and I was a bag of nerves about what would happen and they were very obliging

26-01-2006, 15:42	#1
hobbes Forum Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Sunny Manchester Posts: 4,359	Etiquette rules for a civil partnership ceremony My fantastic partner of nearly 15 years and I have decided to enter into a civil partnership this October. We are keen to avoid a lot of the tradional wedding trimmings- bridesmaids and confetti are out- but we are struggling to agree on certain areas and unlike weddings, there are few guides etc to assist. Both of us are fairly blokey blokes so we are keen to avoid any bride/groom stereotyping. However we can not agree the actual format of the ceremony. We don't really want to walk down the aisle separately or hand in hand and we don't see the need to be given away. On the other hand we don't really want to be in the room whilst our guests arrive. Presents are another issue. we have a nice home and lack for nothing possession-wise. I feel money/vouchers is tacky and really just want a big party but I know friends and family will be confused if they have no direction. what do other forum members think. I have attended other gay weddings but they have always mirrored straight ones.

26-01-2006, 15:44	#2
PamelaL Forum Member Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: Worcestershire Posts: 55,149	You do know people charge for providing this advice.

26-01-2006, 15:48	#3
pad Forum Member Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: Here .. duh! Services: Pipex 1Mb,Wi-Fi Speedtouch 570 Router,win Xp,2003,Linux, Freeview, Kettle Posts: 5,208	Congratulations!!!.. If all else fails you can both run into the room, have a massive row about how the ceremony should be, kiss, make up and then the ceremony... Slapping and pinching at this stage would negate the need for cabarety later I think if you can agree something you both want to do just go with it..It's your ceremony and there are no rules (beyond the rules of the register office) so what other people do doesn't matter.. p.