Mutton Dressed as Lamb - General Discussion

SparkleBabe · 25-03-2007, 14:43

Last night I was almost physically ill at the sight of my neighbour, who is a 40 something grandmother.

She was going out for a night on the town with her 21 year old daughter. Im not being cruel here, but I would not even set foot out of the house with my mother if she was dressed like that. She was wearing the skimpiest mini skirt I have ever seen, it was one of those black pleated things, knee high black stilleto boots and a corest top. Im not saying once a woman hits 40 she should suddenly start to dress all frumpish, but she looked utterly ridiculous. To be honest, even an 18 year old would struggle to pull that look off without looking like a cheap scrubber.

She does have a good figure for a woman of her age, but thats no excuse. Just the mere thought of her wrinkled saggy knees and wobbly orange peel thighs makes my stomach churn. It was not a pleasant sight, and Im not sure any man would be caught dead trying to chat her up.

Why is it that so many 40 something women think they can get away with dressing like teens? I used to work at New Look and see middle aged women buying sparkle boob tubes and mini skirts all the time.

Why?

diddygirl · 25-03-2007, 14:48

I honestly don't think that they think.

I suspect some women hang onto their youth so tightly they forget to look around now and again and see that they're not as young as they once were.

I guess she can wear what she wants, but someone ought to point it out to her so she can at least make a more informed decision about her image.

I'm all for growing old disgracfully, but I intend to keep my cellulite covered whilst I do it!!

gregrichards · 25-03-2007, 14:50

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Originally Posted by SparkleBabe

Last night I was almost physically ill at the sight of my neighbour, who is a 40 something grandmother.

She was going out for a night on the town with her 21 year old daughter. Im not being cruel here, but I would not even set foot out of the house with my mother if she was dressed like that. She was wearing the skimpiest mini skirt I have ever seen, it was one of those black pleated things, knee high black stilleto boots and a corest top. Im not saying once a woman hits 40 she should suddenly start to dress all frumpish, but she looked utterly ridiculous. To be honest, even an 18 year old would struggle to pull that look off without looking like a cheap scrubber.

She does have a good figure for a woman of her age, but thats no excuse. Just the mere thought of her wrinkled saggy knees and wobbly orange peel thighs makes my stomach churn. It was not a pleasant sight, and Im not sure any man would be caught dead trying to chat her up.

Why is it that so many 40 something women think they can get away with dressing like teens? I used to work at New Look and see middle aged women buying sparkle boob tubes and mini skirts all the time.

Why?

Because they dont think or behave like their not teenagers anymore. I also think your wrong, some men will chat anything of the opposite sex up if it has a pulse. The ones who dress trashy are the ones who always end up being the least respected and have relationships that fail.

ohmygosh · 25-03-2007, 14:51

leave the lady alone I reckon. If she is okay with it what are you worrying about it for

Life's too short, live and let live and worry about yourself and not her

sounds like she is out there having fun and good luck to her. If you don't like don't look

kizzie · 25-03-2007, 14:55

Looks to me like the women, has a nicer daughter than your mum.

Why do some people feel the need to judge others so much ?

25-03-2007, 15:03

I don't see the harm in women who want to show off their bodies in skimpy clothes, its their choice. I'd rather see a woman with a nice body wearing revealing clothes than a larger woman who is younger wearing the same.

Question: If this woman had been at the gym and wearing skimpy shorts and bra top what would you have said then, should she cover it all up just because she happens to be in her 40s.

Mrs Werewolf · 25-03-2007, 15:07

If you've got it flaunt it, why shouldn't she dress as she wants. I mean she's so old in her forties and a Grandmother, leave her alone and as ohmygosh says don't look.

_pacman VKC · 25-03-2007, 15:08

MEEEOW, if the lady in question has a decent body then why not? her body her business. Any pics?

Jackiebo · 25-03-2007, 15:09

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Originally Posted by SparkleBabe

Last night I was almost physically ill at the sight of my neighbour, who is a 40 something grandmother.

Why is it that so many 40 something women think they can get away with dressing like teens? I used to work at New Look and see middle aged women buying sparkle boob tubes and mini skirts all the time.

Why?

Maybe your neighbour was going out in clothes that make her feel comfortable and attractive? Maybe she doesn't give a toss about being chatted up? Maybe her daughter is proud of her, and told her she looked good?

I'm a woman nearing 50, much of the time I dress like a 14 year old boy- baggy jeans, trainers, hoodies etc. Doesnt make me a style icon, but I feel comfortable in these clothes. When I 'dress my age' - suits, heels and (eek!) make-up, I feel as tho I'm going for a job interview!

Relax child, everyone is different! If she aint stealing your milk, she aint hurting you.

.B.O.B. · 25-03-2007, 15:10

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Originally Posted by SparkleBabe

Just the mere thought of her wrinkled saggy knees and wobbly orange peel thighs makes my stomach churn. It was not a pleasant sight, and Im not sure any man would be caught dead trying to chat her up.

Would you care for a saucer of milk?

princesswawa · 25-03-2007, 15:12

Sparklebabe,
Perhaps you should dress up and go out for a night on the town rather than stare out the window & down your nose at your neighbour who was going out to enjoy herself. Why the hell should she not dress the way she wants it's not doing anyone any harm is it?

PamelaL · 25-03-2007, 15:22

I'm not sure the OP is getting the responses she was after.

I had a big long essay to write but I couldn't be bothered really and everyone has already said what needs to be said.

maimou · 25-03-2007, 15:24

You can't always tell if something suits you anyway, I bought a dress recently without trying it on - it was beautiful in the shop window but once I got it home and put it on I realised I'm too old for it and it was a mistake. No one is perfect I see a lot of people dressing badly for their shape, age, situation whatever.. it's why most of us aren't professional stylists at the end of the day!

Espresso · 25-03-2007, 15:26

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Originally Posted by SparkleBabe

It was not a pleasant sight, and Im not sure any man would be caught dead trying to chat her up.

That bit made me laugh. Why not? Different men and different women find different things attractive. If they didn't most of us wouldn't be here, now would we?

Strikes me that I don't care what other folk wear, it's not for me to tell them what they look like because it's not my business. I do know that if I had a neighbour and I knew she peered out of her window and tutted at what I wear it would make me laugh my head off. Especially if I was going out on a Saturday night and she was sat at home.

Sigurd · 25-03-2007, 15:26

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Originally Posted by maimou

...No one is perfect I see a lot of people dressing badly for their shape, age, situation whatever.. it's why most of us aren't professional stylists at the end of the day!

And that would include young women, presumably.

Tibsy · 25-03-2007, 15:27

Like Shirley in Eastenders then

maimou · 25-03-2007, 15:30

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Originally Posted by Sigurd

And that would include young women, presumably.

Setting aside my recent foray into overly youthful mini dresses (and I think I'll even shame facedly admit to buying some leg warmers some months back!) my worst fashion mistakes were when I was much younger - age teaches you not to care but it also teaches you not to wear leggings!

_pacman VKC · 25-03-2007, 15:30

She can't look any worse than the 18-25 yr olds with fat arses and stella bellies hanging out of there ill fitting clothes, now that is shameful.

nightstar · 25-03-2007, 15:30

Good for her, I hope she had a good night out with her daughter.

Holly Golightly · 25-03-2007, 15:30

SparkleBabe, I do kind of see your point.

Its like the fat girls that wear tiny wee tops...do they honestly think it looks good when they look in the mirror?

I mean dont get me wrong, it doesnt affect my life, they can dress how they like, I just wonder WHY sometimes...

Messenger · 25-03-2007, 15:32

Quote:

Originally Posted by SparkleBabe

Last night I was almost physically ill at the sight of my neighbour, who is a 40 something grandmother.

She was going out for a night on the town with her 21 year old daughter. Im not being cruel here, but I would not even set foot out of the house with my mother if she was dressed like that. She was wearing the skimpiest mini skirt I have ever seen, it was one of those black pleated things, knee high black stilleto boots and a corest top. Im not saying once a woman hits 40 she should suddenly start to dress all frumpish, but she looked utterly ridiculous. To be honest, even an 18 year old would struggle to pull that look off without looking like a cheap scrubber.

She does have a good figure for a woman of her age, but thats no excuse. Just the mere thought of her wrinkled saggy knees and wobbly orange peel thighs makes my stomach churn. It was not a pleasant sight, and Im not sure any man would be caught dead trying to chat her up.

Why is it that so many 40 something women think they can get away with dressing like teens? I used to work at New Look and see middle aged women buying sparkle boob tubes and mini skirts all the time.

Why?

It's not just women in their 40s who have wobbly orange peel thighs you know! Women of any age young or old can have that.

Sigurd · 25-03-2007, 15:32

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Originally Posted by maimou

Setting aside my recent foray into overly youthful mini dresses (and I think I'll even shame facedy admit to buying some leg warmers some months back!) my worst fashion mistakes were when I was much younger - age teaches you not to care but it also teaches you not to wear leggings!

Any pictures available?

PamelaL · 25-03-2007, 15:33

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Originally Posted by Messenger

It's not just women in their 40s who have wobbly orange peel thighs you know! Women of any age young or old can have that.

Indeed, and lots of us in our 40s don't have them.

louisa320 · 25-03-2007, 15:34

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Originally Posted by SparkleBabe

Last night I was almost physically ill at the sight of my neighbour, who is a 40 something grandmother.

She was going out for a night on the town with her 21 year old daughter. Im not being cruel here, but I would not even set foot out of the house with my mother if she was dressed like that. She was wearing the skimpiest mini skirt I have ever seen, it was one of those black pleated things, knee high black stilleto boots and a corest top. Im not saying once a woman hits 40 she should suddenly start to dress all frumpish, but she looked utterly ridiculous. To be honest, even an 18 year old would struggle to pull that look off without looking like a cheap scrubber.

She does have a good figure for a woman of her age, but thats no excuse. Just the mere thought of her wrinkled saggy knees and wobbly orange peel thighs makes my stomach churn. It was not a pleasant sight, and Im not sure any man would be caught dead trying to chat her up.

Why is it that so many 40 something women think they can get away with dressing like teens? I used to work at New Look and see middle aged women buying sparkle boob tubes and mini skirts all the time.

Why?

Well, i am 23 and see no harm in a 40 something woman dressing as she "WANTS"
Maybe the problem here is, that she has a good figure and can carry the young look off, and you are jealous of that fact?
Get a life!!!!!!!

louisa320 · 25-03-2007, 15:35

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Originally Posted by Holly Golightly

SparkleBabe, I do kind of see your point.

Its like the fat girls that wear tiny wee tops...do they honestly think it looks good when they look in the mirror?

I mean dont get me wrong, it doesnt affect my life, they can dress how they like, I just wonder WHY sometimes...

Because they can!!

25-03-2007, 14:43	#1
SparkleBabe Inactive Member Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: My House Services: Sky+, Top Up TV, AOL Posts: 15,938 Blog Entries: 3	Mutton Dressed as Lamb Last night I was almost physically ill at the sight of my neighbour, who is a 40 something grandmother. She was going out for a night on the town with her 21 year old daughter. Im not being cruel here, but I would not even set foot out of the house with my mother if she was dressed like that. She was wearing the skimpiest mini skirt I have ever seen, it was one of those black pleated things, knee high black stilleto boots and a corest top. Im not saying once a woman hits 40 she should suddenly start to dress all frumpish, but she looked utterly ridiculous. To be honest, even an 18 year old would struggle to pull that look off without looking like a cheap scrubber. She does have a good figure for a woman of her age, but thats no excuse. Just the mere thought of her wrinkled saggy knees and wobbly orange peel thighs makes my stomach churn. It was not a pleasant sight, and Im not sure any man would be caught dead trying to chat her up. Why is it that so many 40 something women think they can get away with dressing like teens? I used to work at New Look and see middle aged women buying sparkle boob tubes and mini skirts all the time. Why?

25-03-2007, 15:03	#6
Silas Marner Posts: n/a	I don't see the harm in women who want to show off their bodies in skimpy clothes, its their choice. I'd rather see a woman with a nice body wearing revealing clothes than a larger woman who is younger wearing the same. Question: If this woman had been at the gym and wearing skimpy shorts and bra top what would you have said then, should she cover it all up just because she happens to be in her 40s. Last edited by Silas Marner : 25-03-2007 at 15:06.

25-03-2007, 14:48	#2
diddygirl Forum Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: The Jam Butty Mine Posts: 3,895	I honestly don't think that they think. I suspect some women hang onto their youth so tightly they forget to look around now and again and see that they're not as young as they once were. I guess she can wear what she wants, but someone ought to point it out to her so she can at least make a more informed decision about her image. I'm all for growing old disgracfully, but I intend to keep my cellulite covered whilst I do it!!

25-03-2007, 14:51	#4
ohmygosh Forum Member Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: The land of the midnight sun Services: Open to suggestion me! Posts: 1,822	leave the lady alone I reckon. If she is okay with it what are you worrying about it for Life's too short, live and let live and worry about yourself and not her sounds like she is out there having fun and good luck to her. If you don't like don't look

25-03-2007, 14:55	#5
kizzie Forum Member Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: Herts Posts: 8,765	Looks to me like the women, has a nicer daughter than your mum. Why do some people feel the need to judge others so much ?

25-03-2007, 15:07	#7
Mrs Werewolf Forum Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Suffolk Posts: 2,777	If you've got it flaunt it, why shouldn't she dress as she wants. I mean she's so old in her forties and a Grandmother, leave her alone and as ohmygosh says don't look.

25-03-2007, 15:08	#8
_pacman VKC Banned User Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Liverpool, Englandistan Services: Sky+ VM+ 10mg BB Posts: 495	MEEEOW, if the lady in question has a decent body then why not? her body her business. Any pics?

25-03-2007, 15:12	#11
princesswawa Forum Member Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: just outside Glasgow Posts: 704	Sparklebabe, Perhaps you should dress up and go out for a night on the town rather than stare out the window & down your nose at your neighbour who was going out to enjoy herself. Why the hell should she not dress the way she wants it's not doing anyone any harm is it?

25-03-2007, 15:22	#12
PamelaL Forum Member Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: Worcestershire Posts: 55,213	I'm not sure the OP is getting the responses she was after. I had a big long essay to write but I couldn't be bothered really and everyone has already said what needs to be said.

25-03-2007, 15:24	#13
maimou Forum Member Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Athens - GR Posts: 8,334	You can't always tell if something suits you anyway, I bought a dress recently without trying it on - it was beautiful in the shop window but once I got it home and put it on I realised I'm too old for it and it was a mistake. No one is perfect I see a lot of people dressing badly for their shape, age, situation whatever.. it's why most of us aren't professional stylists at the end of the day!

25-03-2007, 15:27	#16
Tibsy Forum Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 3,980	Like Shirley in Eastenders then

25-03-2007, 15:30	#18
_pacman VKC Banned User Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Liverpool, Englandistan Services: Sky+ VM+ 10mg BB Posts: 495	She can't look any worse than the 18-25 yr olds with fat arses and stella bellies hanging out of there ill fitting clothes, now that is shameful.

25-03-2007, 15:30	#19
nightstar Forum Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: London Services: Sky+ AOL & Vista Ultimate Posts: 1,955	Good for her, I hope she had a good night out with her daughter.

25-03-2007, 15:30	#20
Holly Golightly Banned User Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Glasgow/Dundee Posts: 4,239 Blog Entries: 1	SparkleBabe, I do kind of see your point. Its like the fat girls that wear tiny wee tops...do they honestly think it looks good when they look in the mirror? I mean dont get me wrong, it doesnt affect my life, they can dress how they like, I just wonder WHY sometimes...