Sex.......With mum and dad! - TV Programmes

*~chick~* · 22-05-2007, 21:54

Not sure if there's already a thread on this, couldn't find anything in the search.
There is NO WAY i would be so open with my parents regarding sex! And to be honest i don't want to know their favourite position!!!!

Smeggypants · 22-05-2007, 22:01

There was a thread on last weeks episode.

I think it's a great way of opening up families about sex. The UK is reknowned for it's sexual suppresion and epidemic of embarrasement.

I'ts only religious social conditioning that's made the UK this way. There's no other reason for it. Anything that opens people up and breaks the cycle is good.

ALck of communication is the root of a lot of misery.

*~chick~* · 22-05-2007, 22:05

I agree with being open but i don't think it needs to go as far as discussing your favourite position and where you like to be touched! Thats just wrong!

Smeggypants · 22-05-2007, 22:07

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Originally Posted by *~chick~*

I agree with being open but i don't think it needs to go as far as discussing your favourite position and where you like to be touched! Thats just wrong!

It's an exercise in openness. Why should it be wrong? THe idea isn't to get turned on by your parents or kdis behaviour. It's just about being open

Silver River · 22-05-2007, 22:07

There are some things that you just shouldn't discuss with your parents!

Smeggypants · 22-05-2007, 22:12

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Originally Posted by Silver River

There are some things that you just shouldn't discuss with your parents!

I don't agree.

Openness and communciation are healthy. Embarresment isn't.

*~chick~* · 22-05-2007, 22:13

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Originally Posted by Smeggypants

It's an exercise in openness. Why should it be wrong? THe idea isn't to get turned on by your parents or kdis behaviour. It's just about being open

OMG that idea didn't even enter my thoughts!

Now that is wrong!!
My point is that as much as i could tell my Mum anything, i still wouldn't have a conversation with her that involved such intimate details and vice versa, personally this is my choice through respect for her

*~chick~* · 22-05-2007, 22:14

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Originally Posted by Smeggypants

I don't agree.

Openness and communciation are healthy. Embarresment isn't.

Respect

Smeggypants · 22-05-2007, 22:19

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Originally Posted by *~chick~*

OMG that idea didn't even enter my thoughts!

Now that is wrong!!
My point is that as much as i could tell my Mum anything, i still wouldn't have a conversation with her that involved such intimate details and vice versa, personally this is my choice through respect for her

That's great, but what about if your mum was happy to talk about such things. people who are brought up to be embarrased about sex talk is usually becuase their parents were also embarrased and that rubbed on their kids.

It's about breaking the chain of sexual suppression from generation to generation. ust think if there was more open talk between generations so much mroe could be learnt without each generation having to make the same mistakes over and over and over.

Over in holland they are so open about sex talk and as a result have the lowest rate of teenage pregnancy in the EU.

The UK has the HIGHEST rate of teenage pregnancy. I rest my case

GratingCheese · 22-05-2007, 22:23

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Originally Posted by Smeggypants

That's great, but what about if your mum was happy to talk about such things. people who are brought up to be embarrased about sex talk is usually becuase their parents were also embarrased and that rubbed on their kids.

It's about breaking the chain of sexual suppression from generation to generation. ust think if there was more open talk between generations so much mroe could be learnt without each generation having to make the same mistakes over and over and over.

Over in holland they are so open about sex talk and as a result have the lowest rate of teenage pregnancy in the EU.

The UK has the HIGHEST rate of teenage pregnancy. I rest my case

And no doubt being more liberal would worsen the problem.

It's perverse to discuss such things with parents and what's the need when there's friends and sexual partners for those sorts of discussion?

*~chick~* · 22-05-2007, 22:24

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Originally Posted by Smeggypants

That's great, but what about if your mum was happy to talk about such things. people who are brought up to be embarrased about sex talk is usually becuase their parents were also embarrased and that rubbed on their kids.

I was fortunate enough to have a very open relationship with my mum and that included sexual conversations, i just can't understand why anyone would want to discuss such intimate issues, thats what best friends are for!

tghe-retford · 22-05-2007, 22:29

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Originally Posted by GratingCheese

And no doubt being more liberal would worsen the problem.

I disagree.

The Netherlands with its liberal attitude to sex has the lowest teenage pregnancy rate in Europe.

Source: http://www.unesco.org/courier/2000_07/uk/apprend2.htm

I think the Dutch could teach us a thing or two!

Andy B · 22-05-2007, 23:12

Is it just me or the programme's title name is SOO WEIRD.

Smeggypants · 22-05-2007, 23:26

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Originally Posted by GratingCheese

And no doubt being more liberal would worsen the problem.

no doubt? well all the evidence and common sense points to the other direction.

The more liberal Holland the problem is much less. Holland has the LOWEST rate of Teenage Pregnancy.

In the 1970s the UK was even more suppresed and stifled and had an even higher rate of teengage pregnancy.

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It's perverse to discuss such things with parents and what's the need when there's friends and sexual partners for those sorts of discussion?

It's not perverse at all.

Smeggypants · 22-05-2007, 23:27

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Originally Posted by tghe-retford

I disagree.

The Netherlands with its liberal attitude to sex has the lowest teenage pregnancy rate in Europe.

Source: http://www.unesco.org/courier/2000_07/uk/apprend2.htm

I think the Dutch could teach us a thing or two!

Well in this program they are!. The therapist is from Amsterdam.

Smeggypants · 22-05-2007, 23:29

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Originally Posted by *~chick~*

I was fortunate enough to have a very open relationship with my mum and that included sexual conversations, i just can't understand why anyone would want to discuss such intimate issues, thats what best friends are for!

It's not so much a case of 'want' it's more of a case of being able to withotu embarrasement.

Anyway don't forget your parents have been there and done it, when often your best friend is just as clueless.

vincentvangogo · 23-05-2007, 03:19

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Originally Posted by *~chick~*

Not sure if there's already a thread on this, couldn't find anything in the search.
There is NO WAY i would be so open with my parents regarding sex! And to be honest i don't want to know their favourite position!!!!

I actually started the thread, though I screwed up the punctuation and it came out 'Sex with Mum and Dad.'
I'm totally against what I saw in the first episode, that therapist is a dangerous idiot if you asked me, and by the look on those kids' faces she was doing nothing but create problems and resentments.
I am all for getting rid of sexual repression/hang-ups, but forcing 16 year olds to discuss the intimate details of their sexual habits with their parents (and vice versa) will most likely just cause more problems.

Smeggypants · 23-05-2007, 05:03

LOL = You're the person who probably claimed the prize for the most off target rebuttle of a post in the other thread abotu this program....

http://www.digitalspy.co.uk/forums/s...=576847&page=2 post #32

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Originally Posted by vincentvangogo

I actually started the thread, though I screwed up the punctuation and it came out 'Sex with Mum and Dad.'
I'm totally against what I saw in the first episode, that therapist is a dangerous idiot if you asked me, and by the look on those kids' faces she was doing nothing but create problems and resentments.
I am all for getting rid of sexual repression/hang-ups, but forcing 16 year olds to discuss the intimate details of their sexual habits with their parents (and vice versa) will most likely just cause more problems.

Again you couldn't be more off target IMO. Although, and it's hardly suprising in this country, the teenagers found it initially difficult and embarrasing to talk about sex with their parents, once they got used to it they found it enlightening.

It's all about conditioning. The first family in the first progarmme had a particularly embarrased teeeenaged daughter. The reason for this was the parents. In the post therapist discussion the mum in the family twice referred to some sexual as being 'dirty'. No wonder the kids had been brought up with negative seuxal attitudes. It's a generational cyckle of negative sexuao conditioning.

And NO ONE was forcing ANYONE to talk about anything. These families volunteered for this program.

NO one is suggesting that parents and kids should talk about there sex livfes on a dialy basis ( although it wouldn't harm ), but the fact they can without embarrasement is the point of the therapty.

I would be interested in your reasoning as to why the therapist is a dangerous idiot, and why her methods will cause more problems?

*~chick~* · 23-05-2007, 22:25

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Originally Posted by Smeggypants

Again you couldn't be more off target IMO. Although, and it's hardly suprising in this country, the teenagers found it initially difficult and embarrasing to talk about sex with their parents, once they got used to it they found it enlightening.

It's all about conditioning. The first family in the first progarmme had a particularly embarrased teeeenaged daughter. The reason for this was the parents. In the post therapist discussion the mum in the family twice referred to some sexual as being 'dirty'. No wonder the kids had been brought up with negative seuxal attitudes. It's a generational cyckle of negative sexuao conditioning.

And NO ONE was forcing ANYONE to talk about anything. These families volunteered for this program.

NO one is suggesting that parents and kids should talk about there sex livfes on a dialy basis ( although it wouldn't harm ), but the fact they can without embarrasement is the point of the therapty.

I would be interested in your reasoning as to why the therapist is a dangerous idiot, and why her methods will cause more problems?

Thats got nothing to do with it!

23-05-2007, 23:17

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Originally Posted by Andy B

Is it just me or the programme's title name is SOO WEIRD.

I agree,

Sex with Mum ..... fair enough

but with Dad as well, that's just sick

FlyingParachute7 · 11-01-2008, 01:14

I think this weeks episode showed just why the programme is good and positively helps families. Amid all the media hysteria (see: "18 yr old slept with 50 blokes") without the help of the sexologist that mother and daughter would never have had a serious discussion about sex (and the relationship between sex and love). Also the girl would have (mistakenly) carried on using sex to solve her problems and could very well have ended up with an unwanted pregnancy and/or serious STI. Sexual ignorance leads to problems ... openness about sex and issues surrounding it lead to better understanding of relationships.

Btw I agree that the title is v. strange (designed to grab attention/boost ratings perhaps??)

GratingCheese · 11-01-2008, 01:47

Isn't smeggypants such sanctimonious little ****. Sorry, slightly off topic.

getupandgo · 11-01-2008, 10:09

I do like this show. Originally I thought it was a sick disaster, until I watched it. It's very true, there's a huge generation gap at the moment with neither parties wanting to close it. However, once the first step is taken it seems really easy and everyone benefits

I hope more people will become more open to help and advice from their families through it.

thecreepingmess · 11-01-2008, 10:53

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Originally Posted by GratingCheese

Isn't smeggypants such sanctimonious little ****. Sorry, slightly off topic.

If 'sanctimonious' means 'correct' then, yeah.

Purpleduck · 13-01-2008, 09:12

Watched the repeat of this at some stupid time this morning (insomnia!).

I had no problem with the premise of the show at all - it seemed both youngsters (oh that term makes me feel ancient!) had major issues and needed to talk to someone. It clearly seemed to help them, under the controlled guidance of that sex therapist.

All the same, I was still quite incredulous at that 18 year old from Essex who had slept with 50 men, many of which she had "met" on the internet. 50??!

22-05-2007, 21:54	#1
~chick~ Forum Member Join Date: May 2006 Location: Wee town in Scottish Highlands Posts: 251	Sex.......With mum and dad! Not sure if there's already a thread on this, couldn't find anything in the search. There is NO WAY i would be so open with my parents regarding sex! And to be honest i don't want to know their favourite position!!!!

22-05-2007, 22:01	#2
Smeggypants Banned User Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Universe Services: TV and Telepathy Posts: 15,526	There was a thread on last weeks episode. I think it's a great way of opening up families about sex. The UK is reknowned for it's sexual suppresion and epidemic of embarrasement. I'ts only religious social conditioning that's made the UK this way. There's no other reason for it. Anything that opens people up and breaks the cycle is good. ALck of communication is the root of a lot of misery.

22-05-2007, 22:05	#3
~chick~ Forum Member Join Date: May 2006 Location: Wee town in Scottish Highlands Posts: 251	I agree with being open but i don't think it needs to go as far as discussing your favourite position and where you like to be touched! Thats just wrong!

22-05-2007, 22:07	#5
Silver River Forum Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 851	There are some things that you just shouldn't discuss with your parents!

22-05-2007, 23:12	#13
Andy B Forum Member Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: London Services: Sky\|Freeview\|o2 Broadband\| Posts: 10,720	Is it just me or the programme's title name is SOO WEIRD.

11-01-2008, 01:14	#21
FlyingParachute7 Forum Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 347	I think this weeks episode showed just why the programme is good and positively helps families. Amid all the media hysteria (see: "18 yr old slept with 50 blokes") without the help of the sexologist that mother and daughter would never have had a serious discussion about sex (and the relationship between sex and love). Also the girl would have (mistakenly) carried on using sex to solve her problems and could very well have ended up with an unwanted pregnancy and/or serious STI. Sexual ignorance leads to problems ... openness about sex and issues surrounding it lead to better understanding of relationships. Btw I agree that the title is v. strange (designed to grab attention/boost ratings perhaps??)

11-01-2008, 01:47	#22
GratingCheese Inactive Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Services: Vote Labour! You'll regret it otherwise Posts: 2,485	Isn't smeggypants such sanctimonious little ****. Sorry, slightly off topic.

11-01-2008, 10:09	#23
getupandgo Forum Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Posts: 3,116	I do like this show. Originally I thought it was a sick disaster, until I watched it. It's very true, there's a huge generation gap at the moment with neither parties wanting to close it. However, once the first step is taken it seems really easy and everyone benefits I hope more people will become more open to help and advice from their families through it.

13-01-2008, 09:12	#25
Purpleduck Forum Member Join Date: Jan 2003 Location: Norwich Posts: 609	Watched the repeat of this at some stupid time this morning (insomnia!). I had no problem with the premise of the show at all - it seemed both youngsters (oh that term makes me feel ancient!) had major issues and needed to talk to someone. It clearly seemed to help them, under the controlled guidance of that sex therapist. All the same, I was still quite incredulous at that 18 year old from Essex who had slept with 50 men, many of which she had "met" on the internet. 50??!