Grand Romatic Gesture... - General Discussion

tinker.bell · 04-06-2006, 23:03

For A Guy. Is such a thing possible?
Or not even a grand one, just a romantic one.

All the typical romantic items are quite girly orientated; flowers, chocs, love song cds, jewelery, cuddly toys, generally red/pink and cute things etc.. (dont all shout at once that i'm strerotyping, i'm talking generally).

So Valentines day or just-get-a-present-for-no-reason day was always difficult for me - i'd have to think of smg the boyf liked anyway, so nothing particularly romantic, usually practical or useful. Course there was alwasy the candles, lovely dinner option but thats not a present.

We've broken up now but I miss him desperately and I think one day I might try and get him back - if I dont try i'll regret it forever. So sometimes i think at that time I would like to post him something. Something romantic, smg to make him smile, sounds cheesy - but smg love orientated, but I havent got a clue what that would be.

Is it actually possible to get smg romantic for a guy?

Ham&Onion · 04-06-2006, 23:09

England World Cup Tickets or a KFC bucket (or both if you really want to pull out the stops). I would be like putty if a girl got them for me.

tinker.bell · 04-06-2006, 23:18

ok then. ahem. lol actually he does like a kfc. But i've never had one so i wont go down that road.
World cup - far too impossible. Forgot to mention he is a massive Arsenal fan (with a season ticket) so maybe smg to do with that... I did consider putting a msg in the programme, but he'd probably not see it.

Terrence Chant · 04-06-2006, 23:21

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Originally Posted by tinker.bell

ok then. ahem. lol actually he does like a kfc. But i've never had one so i wont go down that road.
World cup - far too impossible. Forgot to mention he is a massive Arsenal fan (with a season ticket) so maybe smg to do with that... I did consider putting a msg in the programme, but he'd probably not see it.

Go for the message on the electronic scorecoard before the game / or at half time, perhaps.

Ham&Onion · 04-06-2006, 23:23

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Go for the message on the electronic scorecoard before the game / or at half time, perhaps.

Or try to get a message on any Telly that he is interested in. I'd be impressed if I got a message to me while I was watching my favorite programme.

ILoveMyDog · 04-06-2006, 23:25

How about this to mark the end of highbury

http://www.webcastauctions.net/arsenal/news_item8.php

Just realised It's a few days late for that sorry

tinker.bell · 04-06-2006, 23:28

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Originally Posted by Terrence Chant

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Go for the message on the electronic scorecoard before the game / or at half time, perhaps.

Are you a guy? If so, or anyone else, would that not embarrass him?
Also would quite like it to be smg he could keep.

Sorry didnt mean for this to turn into advice thread. All advice very welcome, but is it the case then that romance is only really for girls?

Terrence Chant · 04-06-2006, 23:30

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Originally Posted by tinker.bell

Are you a guy?

Erm, there's a clue in my name.....

I once jumped onto a moving train to reach my loved one......

ianx · 04-06-2006, 23:38

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Originally Posted by tinker.bell

Are you a guy? If so, or anyone else, would that not embarrass him?
Also would quite like it to be smg he could keep.

I used to work beside a guy whose girlfriend would occasionally send faxes to the office for him, telling him how much she loved him. She knew full well that everyone would see these because the faxes came in to the front office and were left for people to collect. The girls in the office used to tease him about them and he'd get embarressed - but he kept them all and you could tell he was dead chuffed really.

tinker.bell · 05-06-2006, 00:50

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Originally Posted by Terrence Chant

Erm, there's a clue in my name.....

Sorry! though i dont take much notice of user names cos people do use them the other way round...!

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Originally Posted by ianx

I used to work beside a guy whose girlfriend would occasionally send faxes to the office for him, telling him how much she loved him....

awww thats cute, but probably only good for a girlfriend, not an ex. i could imagine a very angry "leave me alone" phone call!
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so am i going to have to resort to a bunch of pink roses? would you guys mind if you got them delivered to your office?!

leejuke · 05-06-2006, 02:17

is pink roses really a man think

ps
little thought
i dont know the whole story about you and the ex but is it a good thing to be sending him things.im sure if he has a new girl she will be not best pleased(or is that what you want)also is it not going to make you look a bit sad to all his mates.

sorry if i seem a bit harsh just thought i would give you my opinion

wotsnewpussycat · 05-06-2006, 02:23

I think the most romantic thing is personal to him. Is there something that he really likes, that if he received it from you he would understand that you missed him?

These are the things that tug at the heart strings the most. Nothing beats knowing that someone understands what makes you tick. never mind the cliches.

But if he has moved on?

ianx · 05-06-2006, 12:42

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Originally Posted by tinker.bell

so am i going to have to resort to a bunch of pink roses? would you guys mind if you got them delivered to your office?!

It would depend entirely on who they were from, and how I felt about that person. I'd be delighted if they were from the right person.

An ex once sent me an Ivor the Engine video at work...

Girth · 05-06-2006, 12:46

A girlfriend of mine once took me to a football match and at half time she stood up very slowly, put both hands to her lower back and emitted a grunt of discomfort. Turns out it was a Grand Rheumatic Gesture.

Ham&Onion · 05-06-2006, 12:51

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Originally Posted by Girth

A girlfriend of mine once took me to a football match and at half time she stood up very slowly, put both hands to her lower back and emitted a grunt of discomfort. Turns out it was a Grand Rheumatic Gesture.

If I could I would send you a prize.

Girth · 05-06-2006, 12:52

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Originally Posted by Ham&Onion

If I could I would send you a prize.

That comment is prize enough for me. Thanks.

Ham&Onion · 05-06-2006, 12:54

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Originally Posted by Girth

That comment is prize enough for me. Thanks.

Do you mind if I nick it?

Girth · 05-06-2006, 12:55

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Originally Posted by Ham&Onion

Do you mind if I nick it?

Be my guest.

tinker.bell · 05-06-2006, 13:28

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Originally Posted by wotsnewpussycat

I think the most romantic thing is personal to him. Is there something that he really likes, that if he received it from you he would understand that you missed him?

These are the things that tug at the heart strings the most. Nothing beats knowing that someone understands what makes you tick. never mind the cliches.

But if he has moved on?

yea i do agree with you.. i just dont know what what would be.

But those chliches - what are they? thats kinda what i was getting at? Are there romatic things for guys or is it the case they'd rather we didnt bother as it then means they have to reciprocate! like i said on a day like valentines i dont always like to get someone a practical/useful pressie, but in the end it would end up being a book or clothing oraftershave or cufflinks or something else he needed.
hmmmm Not sure if i'm expressing myself quite right....

welwynrose · 05-06-2006, 14:13

I took my OH to venice for the day for his birthday as a suprise last year and a few years ago I took him to Barbados for a week as a suprise - he thought that was romantic

PamelaL · 05-06-2006, 14:16

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I took my OH to venice for the day for his birthday as a suprise last year and a few years ago I took him to Barbados for a week as a suprise - he thought that was romantic

Both of those are incredibly romantic and very generous too.

Unfortunately the other person who lives with me finds romance in anything electrical or a blow job while watching England play football.

welwynrose · 05-06-2006, 14:20

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Originally Posted by PamelaL

Both of those are incredibly romantic and very generous too.

Unfortunately the other person who lives with me finds romance in anything electrical or a blow job while watching England play football.

I went for Venice as he has an interest in architecture - he also loves tools & big boys toys so for one birthday I bought him a reasonably priced remote control helicopter and another time got him a drill he had been raving about, another time I arranged for him & a group of friends to go quad biking- if he's into footie what about a day out at the club he supports

maimou · 05-06-2006, 14:38

I think most men just don't care about romance, they find it a chore to provide it for us so I don't see how they can value it that highly.

I think romance is in the details anyway - a great novel that you can draw a personal parallel with for example, sent with a quick 'I miss you' scrawled in the inside cover would do it for me, or an emotive poem written inside a card, or a mixtape full of meaningful songs (not mushy love songs, but songs that told the progression of the relationship or something like that). I'd find all of that far more romantic than a teddy bear or chocolates or any other cheapo excuse for romance!

04-06-2006, 23:03	#1
tinker.bell Forum Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: here... for now Posts: 4,479	Grand Romatic Gesture... For A Guy. Is such a thing possible? Or not even a grand one, just a romantic one. All the typical romantic items are quite girly orientated; flowers, chocs, love song cds, jewelery, cuddly toys, generally red/pink and cute things etc.. (dont all shout at once that i'm strerotyping, i'm talking generally). So Valentines day or just-get-a-present-for-no-reason day was always difficult for me - i'd have to think of smg the boyf liked anyway, so nothing particularly romantic, usually practical or useful. Course there was alwasy the candles, lovely dinner option but thats not a present. We've broken up now but I miss him desperately and I think one day I might try and get him back - if I dont try i'll regret it forever. So sometimes i think at that time I would like to post him something. Something romantic, smg to make him smile, sounds cheesy - but smg love orientated, but I havent got a clue what that would be. Is it actually possible to get smg romantic for a guy? Last edited by tinker.bell : 04-06-2006 at 23:23.

04-06-2006, 23:09	#2
Ham&Onion Banned User Join Date: May 2006 Location: Winchestertonfieldville Posts: 2,303	England World Cup Tickets or a KFC bucket (or both if you really want to pull out the stops). I would be like putty if a girl got them for me.

04-06-2006, 23:18	#3
tinker.bell Forum Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: here... for now Posts: 4,479	ok then. ahem. lol actually he does like a kfc. But i've never had one so i wont go down that road. World cup - far too impossible. Forgot to mention he is a massive Arsenal fan (with a season ticket) so maybe smg to do with that... I did consider putting a msg in the programme, but he'd probably not see it.

04-06-2006, 23:25	#6
ILoveMyDog Forum Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Gender: Female Location: Malcolm Tucker's Office Services: Dog Grooming and Walking Posts: 2,625	How about this to mark the end of highbury http://www.webcastauctions.net/arsenal/news_item8.php Just realised It's a few days late for that sorry

05-06-2006, 02:17	#11
leejuke Forum Member Join Date: May 2006 Posts: 353	is pink roses really a man think ps little thought i dont know the whole story about you and the ex but is it a good thing to be sending him things.im sure if he has a new girl she will be not best pleased(or is that what you want)also is it not going to make you look a bit sad to all his mates. sorry if i seem a bit harsh just thought i would give you my opinion

05-06-2006, 02:23	#12
wotsnewpussycat Forum Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: London E9 Posts: 756	I think the most romantic thing is personal to him. Is there something that he really likes, that if he received it from you he would understand that you missed him? These are the things that tug at the heart strings the most. Nothing beats knowing that someone understands what makes you tick. never mind the cliches. But if he has moved on?

05-06-2006, 12:46	#14
Girth Forum Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Posts: 5,162	A girlfriend of mine once took me to a football match and at half time she stood up very slowly, put both hands to her lower back and emitted a grunt of discomfort. Turns out it was a Grand Rheumatic Gesture.

05-06-2006, 14:13	#20
welwynrose Forum Member Join Date: May 2002 Gender: Female Location: Welwyn Garden City Services: Virgin Media VIP Package Posts: 12,717	I took my OH to venice for the day for his birthday as a suprise last year and a few years ago I took him to Barbados for a week as a suprise - he thought that was romantic

05-06-2006, 14:38	#23
maimou Forum Member Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Athens - GR Posts: 8,334	I think most men just don't care about romance, they find it a chore to provide it for us so I don't see how they can value it that highly. I think romance is in the details anyway - a great novel that you can draw a personal parallel with for example, sent with a quick 'I miss you' scrawled in the inside cover would do it for me, or an emotive poem written inside a card, or a mixtape full of meaningful songs (not mushy love songs, but songs that told the progression of the relationship or something like that). I'd find all of that far more romantic than a teddy bear or chocolates or any other cheapo excuse for romance!